Do you have unrealistic expectations in your relationships? Even when you don’t really have one?
Have you ever started chatting with man online and you thought that he was the one?
After you spoke with him on the phone you thought he definitely was the one?
Then he started texting you and then you really started having unrealistic expectations?
Then you met him for your first coffee date and you knew he was the one.
The way you laughed when he said something funny was just magical. You felt like he understood you. The way he looked into your eyes over brunch was almost too good to be true? He was your knight in shining armor.
One phone call.
One cup of coffee.
Doth not equal the one.
Even if he looks like prince charming.
It is so hard when you really feel something. You feel that connection. And it feels so good, he must be the one. One of my best friends spent the evening with a man, and now the have been together every day since. But that is the exception, not the rule.
When you have unrealistic expectations you are setting yourself up for disaster. Believe me, I know from personal experience. You can also take these unrealistic expectations, and turn them around for your benefit.
It will get to the point, where you are so fed up with them, you will just want to bag them up and take them out to the curb. Let the garbage man take them away.
Here is a simple technique for you to release unrealistic expectations. Do yourself a favor and take a minute to do it right now!
Get out a pen. Get out some paper. Get out your scissors. Draw a stick figure of yourself and write your name underneath. Draw a stick figure of the man with whom you have expectations, and write his name underneath. I want you to close your eyes and ask for strength from God, source, the universe, angels, your guides, or anyone or anything else that can help you. Now surround yourself with Golden light. This is source light and it is part of you. Get the scissors and cut the space in between you. Physically cut the drawing of you and him in half.
This might hurt and you might cry. You might not want to let go. Let the tears flow as you release him and you release yourself. Allow yourself to cut him out of your life without expectations. Say with resolve. “I release you so that you may reach your highest potential. And you release me so that I may reach my highest potential. All is well and this is for the highest good for both of us.
Asking for help is not a sign of Weakness. Rather it is a sign of strength. Doing this exercise is about being open to change, and releasing unrealistic expectations of someone else. Doing this will bring you back into your power. Because you are the creator of your life. It will help you be a Sassy Sexy Single. Feel your strength, your vulnerability and your beauty. Don’t be afraid to cry, because it leaves plenty of room on your insides for laughter, bliss and joy!