If you are single or if you are in a relationship confidence is key to attracting great people into your life and keeping them as a healthy part of it. If you have no confidence then your love life can suffer. If you have ever acted like a doormat in relationships, then you know what I’m talking about. If you want to know how to build confidence and self esteem keep reading.
There are things you can do that will keep you on top of the dating game so you keep feeling good about yourself and what you can give in relationships, and confidence is key.
When you are dating someone, your boundaries can become blurred because you don’t want to screw up another relationship. There are some things you can to keep your boundaries clear that will help you stay in a good feeling place, and keep the relationship with yourself and the other person healthy.
1. Focus on your nose.
Take time out of every day to meditate. There are so many ways you can do this. Focus on your breath and let the thoughts float away. Breathe in and out of your nose and if thoughts come up, just know that they are only thoughts and they won’t stay in your mind forever. Come back to your nose and come back to your breath. Let the thoughts come and come back to your breathe. If more thoughts arise, don’t try to make them go away, just let them be and then come back to focus on breathing in and out. When you start to meditating, it might seem like eternity, but when you get into the bliss zone, 15 minutes will seem like nothing.
2. Pull your own hair.
If you are sitting all day in the office make sure and give your sitting bones a good release and stretch, (especially before a date). Pull your shoulders back, tuck you pelvis in and straighten your back. Be aware of your posture and don’t be afraid to let your body move. When fear or low self-confidence grips people, their heads can hang low and their posture will be slouchy.
Pretend you have a hair in the center and top of your head that is pulling you straight up toward he sky. Practice good posture in the mirror. What does it look like to you? If you have bad posture, you might feel cocky or weird because your muscles aren’t used to being positioned properly. Keep your head held high. If you are working on building your self-esteem, carrying yourself with good posture, will make you seem more confident automatically and people will notice.
3. Figure out what makes you feel fantastic!
Do whatever you have to do to take care of you. Hang out with your friends and paint your nails. If your house is messy, clean it up. Having a nice space to relax in will make a big difference in your life too. Do what you need to do be organized and it will help build your self-confidence not only in your love life, but also in all areas of your life. Learn more about loving yourself.
When you build your confidence you will feel like you can do anything, even if you are afraid. Standing tall will make you feel bigger than life and will help you build your confidence in a really easy way. If you feel confident, you will attract confident fun people into your experience. And when you feel good, good things will come to you. Take care of yourself and don’t forget to love yourself, because you are awesome, you just have to realize it. Got a question? Ask Dina and she will try to answer it on her Facebook Page!