I was set up on a date by a friend of mine with someone that had a very interesting resume. I learned some fabulous blind date advice after that one.
He was a martial arts master and a previous dancer on solid gold. I loved that show when I was a kid. By date night he had lost the shiny gold pants and most of his hair and I took away some miraculous ideas to connect with a man.
When he told me about his job, I thought about self defense.
Is this how you approach dating? Like a boxer or a linebacker? Defensively?
Anything a man says or does— is not the right thing?
If it is, your love life will never work.
Trust me. I’ve been there and done that.
Defending yourself, is the fastest way to push a man OUT of your life.
There are some roadblocks you may be unaware of that are holding you back in love. If you want to learn how to connect with a man on a deep emotionally engaging level—
Ask yourself these 4 questions:
- Do you keep your guard up?
- Do you compete with the man you’re interested in with your wit and intellect?
- Do you always have to be right?
- Are you afraid of NOT being in control?
The only real way to get into a man’s heart—is to let your defenses down.
If he can’t see the soft feminine side of you— it will become a competition with him instead of a romantic relationship.
When you let your guard down your vulnerability goes up. This is what will make a man feel safe with you.
If you stay in your logical defensive brain it will not give a man space to enter your heart.
I want you to learn the art of emotionally “dancing” with a man.
How to emotionally connect with a man in 6 steps
- Slow yourself down.
- Notice your breath and what is going on around you.
- Don’t lead every conversation.
- Let him wonder what you are thinking. It’s OK to be quiet.
- Look into his eyes.
- Tell him how you feel instead of what you are thinking.
When you show him that you are open to your feelings, he will be able to let his guard down so you can actually see the real “him”.
If you’re guarded and afraid, he’ll also be guarded and afraid.
If you are open to your feelings, it will help him get in touch with his feelings.
So take of the sparring pads and put on your dancing shoes.
Learn to tune in to your feelings because the feelings in your heart are your guidance to real emotionally connected love with a man. And trust yourself to go with the flow.