Self Defense and Dating. Is THIS what you THINK you need?

I was going through my hundreds of emails that I receive every day and I found one that really piqued my interest from a martial arts master and previous solid gold dancer that I went on a couple of dates with.

It’s called Ladies Only Self-Defense Group. Is this how you approach dating?

If it is, it will never work.

Trust me. I’ve been there and done that.

Defending yourself is the fastest way to push a man OUT of your life.

Do you always have to be right?

Do you compete with the man you’re interested in with you wit and intellect?

Do you keep your guard up?

The only way to a man’s heart is to let your defenses down.

This is how to let him in. Because if can’t see who you really are, he’ll never know the real you. The real you that any man will adore.

The real you who is true to herself.

When you let your guard down and your vulnerability goes up. This is what will make a man feel safe with you.

If you are guarded and say what you think he wants to hear, this is like a well lit EXIT sign in the back of the restaurant. He will walk right out the door if he can’t see the real emotional you.

When you are open and honest about who you are and the way you feel, it will make him feel

safe. And he’ll be able to let his guard down so you can actually see the real “him”.

If you’re guarded and afraid, he’ll also be guarded and afraid.

If you are open to your feelings, it will help him get in touch with his feelings.

So take of the sparring pads and become vulnerable.

Learn to tune in to your feelings.

Your feelings are your guide to who you really are.

Don’t be someone who you think you “should” be.

Be you. Be authentic. Trust your feelings and don’t be afraid to show them. Men love it.