What does it mean to learn how to be a Goddess?

Is it a new thing? Is, is something ancient? Is it the kind of word that only people who hang out in the woo-woo circles use? How does being a Goddess change the course of a woman’s life and everyone around her?

Some people see it as a pagan thing or a Greek thing, but I see a Feminine Goddess as a modern woman who is in her fullness, full of passion and love. Full of authentic yumminess and sensuality. 

Every woman is a Goddess, but many women just don’t realize it or believe it. I know it took me decades to realize it. 

When you discover you are filled with Goddess energy, your life will get better!

You are already a Goddess (even if you don’t know it yet).

You can learn how to be a Goddess and tap into your passionate feminine Goddess power. This is what attracts meant to you like sweet sweet honey. 

When you tap into your TRUE feminine energy. . .

A man can’t get enough of you.

I went to a Goddess retreat several years ago, and I didn’t know what to expect. I wasn’t fully embracing my Inner Goddess self. Goddess Dina. I didn’t know who she was. I didn’t think Goddess Dina was a thing. 

Low self-esteem had taken over most of my life (and made me feel utterly desperate for a mate, and any old mate would do). Looking back on the old me, I’ve done a complete 360. Thank Goddess! 

Even women with low self-worth can become a high-value Goddess

I didn’t have enough love for myself years ago, and it was one of the hardest things to overcome. And most of it was from old conditioning from things way back in the past. 

One day, in particular, was very eye-opening. I didn’t know how to be a Spiritual Goddess. And I certainly didn’t know how to fully love myself, or even partially love myself. Maybe you’re not sure how to either.

But . . . there is hope. 

Do you want to know how to connect with your inner Goddess?

There were a few things that we did at the goddess retreat I attended, that you can do too.

The first Goddess retreat I went to, was a beautiful day of self-healing with women of all shapes and sizes and personalities. We celebrated the divine feminine Goddess in each every one of us. We weren’t even thinking about online dating. Which is very weird for me. Becuase it LIVED for it for a very long time. 

I wonder if there were other women who didn’t embrace their inner Goddess, like me? I’m prettty sure that’s a big fat yes. 

Becuase many people I know have self-worth issues. It’s a process for all of us. 

Except for maybe one who was so in love with herself it was like gooey chocolate syrup oozing off a plate. When i saw the way she loved herself, I was in a way jealous… because I didn’t know how to be in love with me. 

But it made me realize it was possible becuase it saw self-love with my own eyes. And it was truly beautiful. 

I wanted to love myself the way she loved herself. So now I had a mission for self-love! 

Self-love was what I wanted, and didn’t know how to get there. But I was passionate to learn how to be a Goddess and tap into that energy. Because I had never been taught how to love myself properly. 

And what was different about her? 

She was joyous and overflowing with love for others, but mainly she loved herself, and her connection with herself was something deeper that I had ever seen or felt.

She knew in her heart of hearts that she was a Goddess. And she knew her purpose. I’m still trying to figure out mine. And mabye you are too. 

She knew how to be a Divine Goddess! Yeeeeessss! (Thankfully I figured it out— and so can you).

It might not happen overnight, but there are things you can do to boost your self-esteem every day. Here’s a quick thing you can do every day to start… Now this is a hard one especially if you’re low on the self-love scale. 

Look in the mirror and say to yourself “I Love You.” When I did this for the first time, I could barely look at myself without crying. I had to start with loving something small first. You can say… “I love your eyes” or “I like your eyebrows, they’re OK.” you can start liking something (anything!) about you first if you aren’t quite ready for the loving yourself thing.

Mirror work is a great practice and it will help you if you do it every day. You will start to believe what you tell yourself. I learned about this technique from Louise Hay’s “You Can Heal Your Life” [LINK ]and I HIGHLY recommend reading it! 

It was my first self-help book I ever picked up and it truly changed my life. 


Back to the Goddess retreat…

Tapping into your inner Goddess

Before the retreat, the woman overflowing with pure divine love had drawn a Goddess Card for each of us.

My card was Goddess Brigit. The words on her card it said, Don’t Back Down, and Stand up for what you believe is right. I now have these Goddess oracle cards and LOVE THEM and I think you will too.

And I didn’t know how to not back down. I backed down a lot, to avoid conflict. I was a serious people pleaser. 

Because that was what I had been taught, and there was a good lesson in that card even though I wasn’t ready to hear its message. 

I was still trying to embrace my wants and needs and didn’t feel connected in any way to Goddess Brigit, or my own inner Goddess.

I think that was the real issue (yeah that was THE issue). I never stood up for myself. 

So for our homework before the retreat, we were supposed to research the history of our Goddess to share with the other women.

And I hadn’t done any research.

I felt ashamed.

I felt like a fraud.

Because I wasn’t feeling a connection with Brigit or my Goddess self, and I didn’t know how to say anything about it. 

So I went in unprepared. I didn’t do the work and I felt terrible about myself because I didn’t put in much (any) effort and I didn’t feel like a Goddess.

There is one thing you can do…

Give yourself a Goddess gift. It doesn’t have to be anything big. Small gifts can also be powerful. It is a lesson in receiving. 

For the Goddess Retreat we were asked to bring a gift for each woman in the tribe.

At the closing of the day, we were asked to stand in a circle. Each of us took turns standing in the middle as “the Goddess” and dance and sing the praises of each woman there as we threw gifts at her feet.

It was great for everyone else, and I could shower someone else with praise. And then, it was my turn.

I had to stand in the middle and let people hold me up when I was feeling like a fraud.

I was a fake.

I was a phony.

I didn’t feel like a Goddess. I felt like a loser wearing a flower crown I had made earlier that day. 

I Didn’t Know How To Be A Goddess and embrace my Goddess Power.

I walked to the center of the circle with a feeling of dread and fakeness that I couldn’t shake as I chanted “I am Goddess Brigit” but I wasn’t.

There was no connection with her.

There was no connection with my inner being or my higher self— my Inner Goddess was lost to me.

After that the leader of the day stood in the center of the circle with her arms outspread, and she said, “I am Goddess Elasa!” She used her own spirit’s name and not the name of some Goddess from a card.

She was truly her authentic self.

Then it all made sense to me. I wasn’t Goddess Brigit. I was Goddess Dina. It was like a lightning bolt shot straight into my brain and said, “News Flash!”

You are a Goddess too! 

And at that time I knew these feelings could be mine too… but I didn’t know how to tap into it.

There were still lessons for me to learn to love myself to the fullest. 

There will always will be more things to learn and more ways to love yourself more every day.

But the easiest way to be a Goddess that men adore is to give yourself space to know who you are. Your wants. Your needs. Your desires. Your boundaries. 

  • Don’t be afraid to say no.
  • Don’t be afraid to speak your mind.
  • Don’t be afraid of Change.
  • Don’t be afraid of letting go of control and…
  • Don’t be afraid to be you.

Because you are a true Goddess in your own right. It’s time to let your light shine on you and the world. Becuase you are a gift.

You are perfect where you are (Miss Goddess Pants).

So . . .

It’s time to dig into the steps you can take to be a real-life Goddess.

It’s time to figure your stuff out because it will help you find the love you want and help you get into your Goddess Self I will be sharing some things here on DinaColada.com for you to try out and see what a good fit or you is.

Whatever Goddess things work for you keep them around, and what doesn’t serve you, ditch it.

I’m not a guru, or a know-it-all or anything like that, because figuring me out is a never-ending challenge.

Figuring you out will never end either.

Because we evolve— thank Goddess.

Every person is different, and some things work for some, but not for others. So you’ve got to find what works for you. 

Every Goddess path is different, and you are on the right one, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now. 

Here are some simple shifts you can try starting today. 

Change Your Mind About Your Mindset

We are not “simple” people. We are women. We grow, and we can change our minds from minute to minute— any time we damn well, please.

Because when we change our minds, we are on a path to discovery.

And we know when we change our minds, it’s for a good reason.

And the reason is that something didn’t feel right. Something was off. When we trust our gut and our true knowing is when our lives truly flourish.

And changing our minds gives us power and as the old saying goes, “change is good,” especially if staying the same keeps us in our old self-defeating patterns.

So let’s get rid of some of those negative beliefs, shall we Goddess?

Step 1: Notice the things you tell yourself.
Step 2: Don’t beat yourself up about it.
Step 3: Gently change your thoughts to something that feels better.

What you think about you bring about. It is true and if you don’t, believe me, you can test it out yourself.

For example: Let’s say you stub your toe on the way to brush your teeth when you get up, and you let this one little interaction set the stage for your entire day.

I know hitting your toe on the bedpost hurts like hell, but if you say drearily to yourself… Oh, it looks like it’s gonna be one of those days.

Then you brew coffee while you get dressed, and the button pops off your favorite shirt, and you spill your coffee on the way to work. To top it all off, your boss loads you up with yet another report due on Monday, the same day as your presentation.

And then, on your way home, you get stuck in traffic, and you pick up some Chinese takeout, and when you get home, you discover they gave you wheat noodles instead of rice noodles.

The horror!

Let’s try a different approach to the toe stubbing or anything that rubs you the wrong way it is part of the heart healing process of becoming a Goddess— Tapping into your feminine essence. 

Refocus your thoughts like a Goddess would.

When you think about how much your toe hurts you can instead shift your thoughts to something like…

  • I’m really awake now, and I probably don’t even need my usual 20 oz coffee.
  • If that is the worst thing that happens to me, then I have a pretty incredible life.
  • I’m so lucky that I have a bed to stub my toe on.
  • I am blessed that I didn’t break my toe.
  • My pedicure still looks great.
  • I can’t wait to go shoe shopping.

The list can go on and on and on.

Or it can go the exact opposite and drone on about all of the things that you despise. That doesn’t do anybody any good, ever.

See A Good Goddess In Everything

Yes, even the throbbing toe, it is telling you something.

Happiness is not something ready-made. It comes from your actions the Dalai Lama said.

I don’t think he meant the action of stubbing your toe, but your re-actions about it.

And I say happiness also comes from your thoughts, and you have the choice to change them anytime you choose

If you have been saying the same things to yourself over and over, it won’t magically change overnight.

It is a process that will take rewiring of your brain.

When your thoughts say the same things, again and again, the neural pathway becomes locked into your brain.

Sure, it’s much easier to stay stuck in your yucky thought to thin the same bad things about yourself, about men, and about the way things are, or “should” be.

And you can create new thoughts if you only let yourself think outside of the limiting box that you have built inside your mind.

It’s time for you to stop telling yourself that you will be single forever or all men are the same or all the good men are taken

Who cares what your brain is telling you? You know deep in your heart that these things are not real. You see that overgeneralizing and black and white thinking never helped the human species evolve.

Imagine if everyone still thought the world was flat, (there are still a few non-believers out there).

What it big dreams was just squashed like a bug before they even had a chance?

Attracting big love and loving yourself takes risks, but don’t you think it will be worth it?

Imagine staying stuck where you are right now forever and not learning to be a Goddess.

What are your old thoughts holding you back from, real good-and-true happiness?

What will you miss out on if you don’t learn how to be a Goddess and you let the “I’m not good enough” record running your life. It never stops

Leaving your negative thoughts where they are will leave you unhappy.

So Challenge Your Thoughts

Ask your thoughts questions… Your mind is not the all-mighty authority that runs your life.

Challenging yourself is part of the Goddess way. Challenging yourself will help you grow. Challenging yourself will help you and the human race expand into the unknown. Challenging yourself will help you love yourself and get what you want!

Being brave enough to listen to your deepest desires is part of learning about how to be a Goddess that you love and men adore.

So challenge the status quo and create a life that you choose. A life that isn’t easy but will make you happy.

How To Look Like A Goddess

Now that you know the steps to become a Goddess, you can start working on how to look like one. To feel like a complete Goddess, you have to build up both your inner and outer world. The beauty of a Goddess is not in her physical appearance, but the quality of care she gives to her body and soul.

Adorn yourself with your favorite jewelry and accessories.

Take time out of your day to rejuvenate your body with energy clearing baths.

Dance and move sensually to the beat of a Goddess this will help you get in touch with your body and help you learn to release pain and love yourself.

Basically, do anything that makes you feel alive and good! The vibrant energy inside you will shine through your outward appearance.

How To Be A Man Magnet

Men love women who know how to have a good time. They’re not out there looking for a wife, but someone to have a good time with. Being a self-transformed Goddess, you are not weighed down by the need to find or keep a man.

You know you are worthy. You don’t weigh your worth with having a man in your arms. The ironic thing about being a man magnet is the fact that you don’t need one. Spend your days loving your Goddess self and you’ll attract men like crazy.

How To Get Into A Guy’s Head

Confidence. Confidence. Confidence.

Women have this misconception that getting inside a guy’s mind is some powerful magic that requires a long list of seductive moves to achieve their goal. In reality, planning your next move not only makes you feel phony, but it’s pretty obvious on his end as well.

To get him to think of you constantly, you need to love yourself completely. Intoxicate him with your confidence and Goddess presence. You need to rid yourself of your insecurities so that you can be receptive and present with him 100%.