When I wake up in the morning, I feel like I’m not good enough. I feel like I have lost control over everything in my life. I feel like I’ve been running on a hamster wheel for 20-30-40 or more years.

I am not good enough.
I am not good enough to have my needs met.
I am not good enough for a good man.
I am not good enough for love.

Icky thoughts like these can wreck your self-esteem and ruin any chances of having a fulfilling love life.

Here is another culprit in your mind that makes the not good enough feelings even word.

The Evil “Shoulds” Can Ruin Your Life.

I’m 43; I should have a husband by now.

I should already be pregnant.

I should have more money in my 401K.

I should start exercising.

I should have a place of my own.

I should eat more veggies.

When you have a terrible case of the shoulds is when these not-so-good vibes can take over your mind, body and soul.

There are times when I feel like I am not good enough too. And these are the things I do to feel like I am good enough. When you have limiting beliefs and a severe case of the shoulds that no Xanax could ever cure— Just know that you ARE good enough.

You are good enough just because you are here!
You are good enough to find your life purpose.
You are good enough for love.

Your life and everyone else’s life too is a roller coaster of emotions, and it is part of the human condition. Disappointment, despair, trauma, and heart-crushing breakups are part of the circle of life.

Remember nothing lasts forever, and you can dust off your skinny jeans and get back out in the game because you are good enough.

You just have to keep telling yourself that you are enough, even if you don’t believe it quite yet.

Even though you have a library of self-help books, meditate every day, do yoga and drink kale juice, not feeling good enough feelings will still come up.

And that’s OK. You are human and being human hurts.

Imagine having paper cuts all over your heart. That’s what being a person can be like, (I’m sure you know exactly what I’m talking about). We all have hurts, and they don’t go away in an instant.

We’ve all been there. And there isn’t an easy fix for low self-esteem. It is a process.

You have to do some soul searching— and probably lots and lots of crying. You can dig into the feelings, and realize they are not the best part of you. They are just the ugly little monster part of you— and this monster is NOT in charge.

You are in charge.

You get to decide to choose to be happy and feel like you are lovable.

How To Feel Good Enough 3 Easy Tips

Tip #1 Have a Daily Mantra

Here is an easy one.

I want to be happy, and I will do whatever it takes to get to my good-feeling place because I am good enough.

And here are some more!

I am lovable.

I am human, I love and accept my hurts.

I am getting ready to share love.

I am loved.

Divine love is inside of me.

I am in the process of creating my incredible life.

My life is filled with love. There is plenty to go around.

Tip #2 Write your little heart out.

Get out your journal and start writing about all the shoulds like they have manifested. Tap into what it will feel like when you will experience them on the physical level. And trust that there is pure goodness waiting for you.

Here is a practice exercise.

Tip #3 Imagine your perfect life as if.

Imagine yourself three years from now having your deepest relationship desires manifested into reality. Just imagine it. Get detailed and pay attention to the little things as long as you can feel good while doing it. If you feel too much emotion, take a break, cry it out and get to a peaceful place before trying it again.

Here is a short example.

I love the way it feels when I wake up in the morning, and my boyfriend is already up making my favorite coffee for me. He knows exactly how I like it. It’s the little things like that, which make me love him more and more every day.

I feel so adored, cherished, and understood by my partner. Even when we disagree, I still feel heard by him, and he listens.

My life is a miracle, and I have feelings of deep appreciation every day for every single thing. Every breath I take, every hot bath I run at the end of a long workday, and the soft pillow beneath my head every night. His strong arms around me make me feel sure, cared for, and deeply loved.

Things are perfect enough for me. I feel at ease, happy, and content, but I still want more.

Wanting more joy is one of the most fun experiences of being a person. I will always crave more fulfillment, more fun, and am excited about what my relationship will evolve into in the future.

I am creating my life as a masterpiece of my choosing.

I can paint the happiness onto the canvas in my mind.

It is mine to imagine, to feel and bring into reality.

I can see it, feel it, smell it, taste it, and touch it.

I love the power that lies within me, and I am filled with divine love that guides my every day. That is power, and the ability is within me. I can create my life exactly as I want it, and I understand that divine timing plays its part in my life. I trust the unfolding, and I thoroughly and deeply love myself, and I know that I am good enough. I am open and ready for love.