Independence day is over and many of you are celebrating your independence! People die for freedom and being single really isn’t so bad.

But one of the things that could be holding you back in the love department is not knowing what makes you happy.

When you are single for long enough, it can help you get clear that you don’t want to spend the rest of your life alone. It’s nice having someone to make a clam bake with in the summer, go out for drinks with on Friday and someone to get freaky between the sheets when you come home to at night.

When you are independent and single the best relationship you can have is the one with yourself. So how do you do that?

The first thing is to know what makes you happy.

Do you even know what you like? Have you partners in the past had no idea how to please you?

I led a discussion in Delaware last week and we had some really heartfelt discussions. One of the things we talked about was what makes you happy.

Have you heard of the 5 love languages?


Gary Chapman has an amazing free tool so you can figure out what makes you feel the most loved.

Check out what makes you happy quiz here and discover what really makes you tick. When you are dating someone there are sneaky ways to let them know how to keep the passion going because you are getting your needs fulfilled.

Take the free quiz here, discover your love language and what makes you happy.